December 17, 2015 Jameela 3Comment

Every birthday I like to ask myself if I am a better person this year than I was last year. So far I think the answer has been yes. Even so, I have always had this nagging feeling that I haven’t done enough. I get the feeling that I am wasting my youth by not accomplishing more goals. I wonder if I should have started attempting to build my life earlier or if I wasted too much time going out to the club (yeah, I’m talking to you 18 year old Jameela).


While those thoughts bother me from time to time, I remember that every experience I had helps to shape the way I see the world. Every choice that I have made brought me to where I am today. Even if I look back and question the choices I have made, I know that I always made the best decisions I could with the information that I had.

What Have I Accomplished So Far?

I think overall I have done well for the amount of time I have been on Earth. I have two beautiful girls, an excellent relationship with my family, an understanding of my heritage and where I come from, an acceptance of myself, and the desire to become a better person overtime.

I also have a business that allows me to express myself creatively, contribute to my community (in the little way it can), and pay my bills.

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Resolutions in my 20s

There were a few things I decided on this time last year. Last year I decided I wasn’t going to put up with any BS from people in my life. That included all my relationships: business relationships, friendships, and family relationships. I decided that I would focus on the things I have control over and not stress over the things I can’t change. Finally, I decided that I was going to have another baby to complete my family.

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What’s Next?

This year I am looking to live with less stuff. I would really like to do more with less and     declutter my life. Which I’m hoping it will lead to a less cluttered mind! I also hate having a lot of stuff that I don’t actually use.

I’m also going to tackle my debt and save more. I hate to owe anyone anything. I don’t want to enter 30 owing one nickle. If I could pay off my mortgage in that time I would be happy, but I am realistic on that front. I’m a pretty good saver in general. My children’s future is important to me, so I make it a priority to save for them. That said, I would like to save more for myself. Nothing wrong with that, right?

Finally, I want to a mentor. I haven’t finalized the details on that, but I know that there is a great deal I can learn from someone who has done it all before.

What Should I Do Before 30?

I’m not going to put any deadlines on myself. I think I rushed myself and stressed myself over the past few years. I would like to reach 30, look back, and think to myself; “Wow, Jameela. you really have done a great job raising your family, reaching your goals, and becoming a better person.”

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