January 9, 2016 Jameela 1Comment

About a month ago I was in Starbucks with my mom and I felt people looking at me. At this time I was well into my 9th month of pregnancy and feeling tired and slightly self-conscious.

I said “Mom, do you think people are looking at me because I am pregnant or because I look homeless?” I was wearing loose, baggy clothing and feeling quite large.

My mother replied “They are staring at you because you are beautiful.”

Awwwe. Mothering genius! *I took note to use that line on my daughters one day*

I have to say that I became more comfortable and was visibly happier. I know it is a mother’s job to make their children feel good about themselves, but I felt like her words were genuine as opposed to an insincere comment to boost my confidence.

This reminded me of a photo-shoot I was invited to by a local photographer, Fela . Fela is a wonderful portrait photographer who encourages women to embrace their beauty, flaws and all. She encouraged her models to come as they were: no hair, no makeup.

In general I am 100% happy with the way that I look. I don’t normally wake up and wish to change anything about myself. When I was younger I would obsess over the way I look. To be honest, I didn’t consider myself beautiful at all.

As I’ve “grown up” I have chosen to accept and embrace the way that I look. I know that I am flawed, but I accept the things that I cannot change. Don’t get me wrong, I still like to make myself look more attractive sometimes, but I focus my energy on the things within my control.

The Final Result

When I went to this photo-shoot I was in my first trimester. During my first trimester I was sick all the time and basically slept for the majority of the day, but never felt rested. I had literally rolled out of bed 40 minutes prior to the photo-shoot (the drive there is about 20 minutes). I tried to fluff my hair in the car, but that was about all I could get around to doing before I walked through the door.

The photo below is the final result. It reminds me of a quote that I see a lot:

“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart”

You are beautiful no matter what happens. There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful than a woman being unapologetically comfortable in her perfect imperfections

black girls are magic

accepting how you look