Sometimes you reach a place in your life where you are neither happy or unhappy. A place in life where you are slightly ambivalent or even complacent. There are times when you feel passionless or disenchanted with your life. Or times when you feel as though you are settling. There are other times when you think to yourself “Why am I living like this?”
When you feel this way it is time for a change.
The question is, what kind of change do you make? Do you make small changes or do you make a drastic change?
Small/Short Term Life Changes
- Getting a hobby/taking a class
- Changing your hair
- Going out more/ Reconnecting with people
- Buying something you have always wanted
I find that some of these can be superficial fixes. These changes can be things that temporarily make you feel better, but sometimes that is all you need. A few years ago, I felt like I wasn’t growing as a human being. I felt stagnant in my life, so I decided to take a continuing education course. There are some skills that I learnt in the course that I still use today. However, the true benefit of attending the class was realizing that I was capable of acquiring new skills when I felt like I had hit a brick wall. Going through the process of learning reminded me that personal growth is a never ending journey.
It is never too late to become the person you are capable of being.
Big/Long Term Life Changes
- Moving (homes, cities, or countries)
- Changing your career
- Creating/Severing relationships
- Getting rid of items
- Changing your perception
Some of these changes seem extreme and possibly like running away. However, sometimes these can be the perfect solution. For example, you could possibly feel like you are settling in your career. Maybe you just fell into a job that worked and stayed there for 5 or ten years. Why not quit and find something else? There are situations where you have to let things go in order to make space for new opportunities. Perhaps you have a relationship with someone that isn’t serving you anymore. Maybe the person is a constant source of negativity, or they are holding you back from being your best self possible. Why not sever your ties with them?
Personally, I have made some drastic life changes that have allowed me to move on with my life and I don’t regret them one bit. I am a firm believer in expiration dates. I don’t keep people or things in my life that no longer work for me and I definitely reject situations that drain my energy. At the end of the day, everything has an expiration date: people, places, and things. Move on and let them go.
When to make the change
On the one hand, there are cases when the change you make has to be gradual. On the other hand, you may just have to say F-it and go for it. I think in either case you have to have a plan on how you will execute your change. You have to be comfortable with your decision, and make sure that the decision you make is the right decision for you at this time. I believe there is no better time than the present.